July 7, 2011

Moving from Hotel to Villa - July 6, 2011

Yesterday, July 6th, we moved from our 5-star hotel, courtesy of husband's company where he had lived for 22 days, to our new villa. While my husband took a cab from the hotel to work, I dreaded the fact that I had to MOVE once again. I had moved my office May 24th, moved items to storage and items for lending to my sister on June 10th, moved my household into a container June 22-23, moved my 3 suitcases, 1 bag, 1 box and 1 baby to Dubai June 30th and so, what the heck, why not move once AGAIN from hotel to villa on July 6th.

After once last nice buffet breakfast (120 dirham/ $33) with a latte and special made berry crepe, I began to muster my energy for the next move which was getting close to the last one. The nanny started cleaning and packing and really was the source of energy or fire for the move since she was missing her room and working at the house...I think or maybe just was tired of helping us adjust the baby to the 9-hour time zone difference.

In the end there were 12 bags: 7 suitcases, 2 Big boxes, 3 bags, a flower arrangement..oh and a baby and stroller. I called the concierge for 2 porters and for them to call for 2 van taxis. A few minutes later the door bell rang and I opened the door to one nice porter with one cart. I opened the door wider and looked down the hall both ways. Yep, they sent one guy. Either they didn't understand me or didn't think they needed to send 2 guys. I told him it was a lot and he said he'd try to do it. Then I opened up the door and he glanced inside and saw what I meant. He said he would be back with help.

They had taken it all downstairs and then before I knew it, they were loading it in a van taxi while I rushed to check out at the front desk and to confirm that in fact, nothing was going on our credit card. As I checked out I saw all my prime earthly possessions loaded on a taxi by strangers. I tried to quickly get to the taxi. The porter confidentally told me that everything fit in the van and I could ride in a separate car taxi. No, I told him. I am going with the van because I don't trust just anybody with all my key possessions. So with a little adjusting, I rode with the van and my baby and nanny rode in a separate car.

As I was taking the 20-25 min ride, I realized I should have put the baby with me too. I had only met the nanny 4 days ago or so. But I had no reason not to trust her so I hoped for the best.

Burak found a villa that was going to be available in late July but the current family renting it was going to be on vacation in July. In the end, we rented the house in July furnished and they'll take their things at the end of the month when we have a week before our items arrive via ship container. In the spirit of The Office, I like to call it a win, win, win, win scenario since everybody is happy.

We arrived, after unloading, tipping, and waiting for the AC to kick in, it started to feel good to be in a house..a future home.

Money Conversion

Ok, I decided to quit being good at math after high school because there was always a calculator on a computer, phone, or I could have one in my desk. I didn't see the point because for tipping, I would guess or Burak would do the math. That is another reason it got worse, Burak is so good at it, doing large number calculations in his head, that I can survive without more than basic math skills.

Side note: I think they have a saying that attorneys/lawyers are not good with math and that is why they go to law school. I can agree with that but I do get good with math when calculating how much clients owe me.

So...there are 3.67 or so dirhams for every US dollar. That means I have to quickly divide everythign by 3 or 4 and then try to figure out what the price is. There is an app on my phone but it takes me forever to type it in and calculate. I will probably get better at it.
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Money conversion has been an issue in the last 2-3 days when:
- I have to figure out how much to tip porters, taxi drivers, etc.
- I went to the grocery store for the first time and was checking out everything and trying to figure out if it was worth getting the American brand or just go for the cheapest thing even if most of it was in Arabic. I find most of the labels are in both Arabic and English so no problem there.

Anyway, I will get better at it but needless to say, it is annoying.

July 5, 2011

Quick Answers to Common Questions

At the moment it is 4:40am Dubai time and I am up typing and my new live-in nanny/maid is helping watch Rex while he wants to play.

Answers to Questions I have received:
Q: Do I have to cover up with a scarf or wear a burqa or something?
A: No, I have been wearing what I wore in Houston - shirt that covers my shoulders and cleavage and black pants and sandals. There are a lot of tourists and expats here. We just have to be respectful of the locals and we're fine.

Q: Is Facebook banned in UAE?
A: No, but Skype, Vonage, Hulu, and some others are blocked or limited if the web thinks you have a local IP address. I always wondered what it was like to be blocked from websites and now I know.


Q: Housing - corporate, etc?
A: Burak found a villa/townhouse in a suburb outside of the city center. We have to pay rent in 1 or 2 yearly installments. The rent is covered by his job.

The last two weeks of June...I can't believe I survived

My husband had already left for Dubai June 13th (yeah, I didn't want to tell him that wasn't a good day to fly but didn't want my suspersticions get in the way). I had to purge the house of unwanted items, put sentimental items in storage, run my law firm, take care of a 5-month old, sell our 2nd car, assist in putting the house on the market for leasing and being available at the moment's notice for the house to be shown, and oversee the packing and moving of our townhome's belongings..I feel like I am missing something. Oh yes, Burak told me to take care of myself too..which meant no colds and I had to sleep. Well, it was going to be hard but I did it. Of course, it all came together with the help of friends, family, a legal assistant, 2 nannies, a Realtor, some wine, and adrenaline.

I forgot to mention....I turned 30 on June 16th, my legal assistant went to a work conference June 16-19 (which meant I had to cover the office more), my dad got married on June 18th in Indiana, and the movers were in my house June 22 AND 23. Burak and I didn't celebrate our 9-year wedding anniversary unless you consider the 5-minute phone call a celebration. Burak also missed his first Father's Day. So, why are those all in the span of 2 week you ask, well I don't know but anyway.

And breathe....If I can do that, I can do anything. What is moving my firm, baby, and life half-way across the world?

Middle East or Houston

My husband had the itch to change jobs so we had decided, me in my fog of recently losing my mother in December 2010 and having my first baby in January 2011, that if we were to move for a job, it would have to be in the middle east. Otherwise, it wasn't worth moving out of Houston, our new favorite place and home of 4 years. Four years being the longest either of has lived in a city during our adult lives.

A little background: Burak, born in Turkey to a blend of cultures, was suggested to move and see new places. He was an exchange student to El Paso, TX for a year at age 18. He later studied at the University of Texas - Austin.

Ruby, born in Missouri to a blend of cultures - American missionaries in Mexico - mom and German-American farmers - dad - split her summers between the ranch in Mexico and the farm in Missouri. She was an exchange student to Belgium (French part) for a year at age 18. She later studied at the University of Texas - Austin.

And so you guess where this is going, they meet in 2000 at UT, they date, get engaged, and get married. They then move to DC for 2 years, then Turkey for 2 months, Barcelona, Spain for a year, and then the Research Triangle in North Carolina for 2 years for graduate school (Duke MBA-UNC Law). Then the move to Houston for the big job, ExxonMobil in July 2007. After 4 years in Houston, where Ruby graduated from law school, passed the bar, got licensed, and started her own immigration law firm AND the couple bought a house and made a cute little baby, they were off to the next adventure.

November 20, 2009

Starting my own law firm

On November 17, 2009, I started my own law firm. It is called 'Law Office of Ruby Lichte Powers' and I am still working on my website and contact information. Most likely, the website will be www.RubyPowersLaw.com.

My firm will be focused on Immigration and Nationality law and my four plus years of internships, clerkships, and working with firms as an attorney will provide me with the expereince necessary to provide excellent service to my clients.

June 29, 2009

April 24, 2008

Should your child have a ‘gap year’ before college?

Some students need a break after high school — and some colleges approve

By Danielle Wood
April 22, 2008

Princeton encourages it. Harvard’s a big fan. From Tufts to MIT, some of the most prestigious universities in the nation are urging students to consider something that would make most parents cringe: The idea of putting off college for a year in favor of some much-needed downtime.
It’s called a “gap year.” And while it’s been a common and popular rite of passage in Australia and the U.K. for decades, the concept is now starting to gain significant steam here in America.

Why? A growing number of high school seniors are balking at riding the academic conveyer belt from preschool all the way to university. They’re burnt out. Or not quite ready. Or they want to explore a few interests before deciding what to study in college. So instead of packing their bags in anticipation of freshman year, they’re volunteering in New Orleans or teaching in Thailand. They’re starting the great American novel, or interning to help figure out what they want to do with their lives.

Understandably, that makes a lot of parents nervous. But before you drive your kid to college in an armored truck and deliver him to the dorm yourself, it’s important to understand the facts, including what a gap year is, and what it is not.

For one, a gap year does not mean that a student is doomed to remain degree-less forever. While there are no formal studies on the number of students who never end up making their way to college post-gap, anecdotal evidence from admissions officers across the country says very few actually drop off the college radar. Taking a gap year can actually make kids more focused and ready for the rigors of academic life. In fact, Harvard, arguably the most competitive university in the country, believes so much in the gap year that they encourage every student they admit to consider a year off before matriculation. And Princeton has just announced a new program called the “bridge year” that will allow newly admitted students to spend a year performing public service abroad before beginning their freshman year.

The reason behind higher education’s support of the gap year is clear: Better-prepared students mean higher completion rates. And it’s completion that matters. Parents should remember that getting a kid into college is only half the battle. According to the College Board, three out of five students who enter a public four-year college don’t manage to snag a degree within five years. And nearly 30 percent of all students who enter college don't return for their sophomore year. Considering the fact that this year’s average price at a four-year private college is a whopping $23,712 per year, it’s a pretty expensive place to dabble. Sending a kid who’s not ready to college is like sending a kid who’s not feeling hungry to an all-you-can-eat buffet.That said, not all gap years are created equal. If you have a kid determined to take a year off, here are some guidelines to follow:
Have the money talkJust because you’re willing to chip in for college doesn’t mean you’re on the hook for a gap year as well. Remember, it’s about learning responsibility in the real world. Be honest up front about what you are — and are not — willing to do. Require that your child create an in-depth budget for her year, in addition to telling you how she plans to contribute financially. While many students dream of a year of unfettered travel, it’s perfectly reasonable to require that your kid wait some tables for a few months to pay for all or some of the year.

Get in firstA gap year should be a measured decision, not a procrastination technique. It should never be used to avoid taking the SAT or ACT on time, stall the need to fill out college applications, or jump into the Senior Slide early. If you have a high schooler under your roof who’s dreaming of taking a year off, keep him on track. Act as if he’s going to college as planned. Once he gains admission, he can call the college to request a deferment, which most admissions offices will gladly grant.

Create a plan BThe best way to start a gap year is with an admissions offer to your dream school in hand. But for students who didn’t get into their college of choice the first time around, a gap offers a second crack at it. Holly Bull, director of the Center for Interim Programs, the oldest gap year advisory service in the country, says that for students who’ve had less than stellar grades during senior year, a gap year offers a second chance to show solid performance, through an academic program abroad or some other curriculum-based program. Sometimes the gap year can make all the difference in getting an acceptance letter the second time around, Bull says. “It’s been known to happen. It’s certainly not a guarantee, not something you can bank on, but we’ve had some.”Put it in writingThe most successful gap years are full of unexpected surprises along the way. But in between all those surprises lives a lot of planning. This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity — a chance for your child to see the world and figure out their place in it. If they’re angling for independence, have them prove they deserve it by doing research and coming up with a course of action. From a budget to a schedule to the phone calls needed to land that dream internship, the planning phase is just as vital to the gap year, and just as much a learning experience, as the gap itself. It’s perfectly OK to deviate from the plan once the year begins, but starting without one is a recipe for disaster.Which programs are worth a year off? From building houses in the inner city to teaching English in Ghana, we’ve got the goods on the best programs out there. Go to education.com for a list of 11 amazing gap year opportunities.

December 9, 2007

Trim Expenses While You Trim the Tree

by Sue Stevens Friday, November 30, 2007

The holidays are typically a time we think about spending money, not cutting expenses. But let's face it, you're going to have to pay for all those shiny new packages under the tree (or whatever holiday icon you choose to celebrate).
You've heard all the standard ways to cut costs: don't buy Starbucks, take a bag lunch, and so forth. But you can get a lot more creative with slicing and dicing the way you divvy up your financial pie. Some of these trimming tips may be familiar to you and some may be new, but if you follow through on them, you're sure to shake loose a few more dollars that can be spent on whatever you value the most.
1. Watch out for shipping costs when buying via the Internet. Use the Internet to comparison shop, then pick up the item locally.
2. If you see something in a catalog that you want to buy, wait a week before ordering to see if you still really want it. (But don't wait too long or your holiday gift may not make it under the tree in time.)
3. When traveling, look online for ideas and/or coupons before you go. Once on site, ask the locals for low-cost favorite spots, a la Rachael Ray.
4. Try a vacation at home. See and do the things you've always meant to do and save on hotel costs. The holidays are a perfect time to enjoy local festivities.
5. Send free e-cards and save on postage.
6. Give your time or services instead of "things" for gifts.
7. Go gray. If you hate sitting with gloppy color on your head and paying an arm and a leg for the privilege, you should know that as the baby boomers age, gray is "in."
8. If you own a house, shift your higher-rate credit card debt to a lower-rate line of credit. Deduct the interest on your tax return.
9. If you own a house, use a home equity loan to pay off auto loans. The interest is tax-deductible.
10. Pay your mortgage payment biweekly instead of monthly--you'll save on interest costs and pay off your mortgage sooner.
11. Pay extra premium payments when paying your mortgage. As above, you'll save interest payments and be able to pay off your mortgage sooner.
12. Pay cash when possible--psychologically it's harder to spend cash than using credit cards, and you'll save on interest charges.
13. Set up one checking account for regular recurring expenses and another for bigger-ticket items. (Only buy if you've saved enough.)
14. Check with state or federal governments to see if you have money owed to you. To find out more about claims in your state, go to the National Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators' Web site.
15. If you've inherited an IRA, understand how to stretch out the tax deferral by taking the correct minimum required distribution.
16. Don't get divorced.
17. Quit smoking.
18. Save all your change and use it to buy gifts next year.
19. Go to matinee movies instead of movies at night.
20. Stop buying clothes that are "dry clean only." Learn to iron.
21. Plan parties where everyone brings something.
22. Have cocktails at home and then go out; have dessert at home.
23. Order vegetarian when you're out.
24. Look up phone numbers in the phone book instead of paying for directory assistance.
25. Sell stuff you don't need or use anymore on eBay.
26. Shop resale shops or estate sales. 27. Shop the clearance racks.
28. Make your own greeting cards on a computer.
29. Fill prescriptions with the generic form of the drug.
30. Plan your purchases--avoid impulse buying.
31. Use public transportation.
32. Track your spending. If you write it all down, you'll probably spend less. And you'll know exactly where your money goes.
33. Use your senior discount (if eligible). Go to www.AARP.org for information about member discounts and services.
34. Skip paying cab fare now and then. Walk or take the bus.
35. Don't buy mutual funds just before capital gains distributions.
36. Use a budget--especially for items like gifts.
37. Compare rates for cable and satellite. Go with the less expensive option. Only sign up for the channels you know you'll watch.
38. Consider buying a certified preowned car instead of a new one.
39. Don't renew subscriptions to publications you don't have time to read.
40. Don't watch so much TV. You won't see all the ads and be as tempted to buy. Take a walk instead or play with your kids.
41. Make IRA contributions early in the year to take advantage of additional months of tax deferral.
42. Lock in a fixed mortgage rate so your interest rate can't increase to a point you can no longer make your house payments.
43. Only use ATMs where you won't be charged service fees.
44. Use the public library to check out movies or books for free.
45. Consider dropping your land line phone at home. Your cell phone may be all you need and some come with free long distance services.
46. Give up expensive health club memberships. Learn to exercise outdoors, at home, or through the park district. Or join the YMCA.
47. With the high cost of oil, those hybrid cars are looking more attractive all the time. Check out Hybrid Car Guide for more.
48. Wait a little longer between manicures (try doing one yourself!), massages, or highlights, and try a local training school.
49. Play golf less often, look for tee times when rates are reduced, or play at lower-cost public courses.
50. Pay off your credit cards monthly and avoid paying interest.
51. If you must charge, switch to a no-fee or low-fee credit card.
52. If your house down payment was less than 20%, cancel your private mortgage insurance once your mortgage balance is 80% or less of your home's value.
53. Check your credit history. Go to AnnualCreditReport.com and make sure everything is accurate. Good credit may mean lower interest charges.
54. If you have a tendency to "bounce" checks, deduct a "cushion" from your balance. Then if you accidentally let your balance go below zero, you'll hit that cushion instead of paying fees for insufficient funds.
55. Participate in company retirement plans to save on taxes. Your taxable income will go down and you'll defer taxes to the future.
56. Take advantage of your employer match in your 401(k) or other retirement plan.
57. Don't take a loan from your 401(k) plan--you'll save on double taxation of that repaid interest.
58. Take advantage of company-sponsored reimbursement plans. If your company sponsors free retirement advice, take advantage of it.
59. Talk to financial planners at no cost. Look for newspaper money shows or local events where this service may be offered.
60. Take advantage of free health screenings at work (if offered).
61. Switch to an HMO from a PPO for health insurance.
62. If self-employed, consider switching health insurance plans to high-deductible plans to take advantage of HSAs.
63. Take advantage of medical prescription drug cards.
64. Get multiple quotes on insurance. It pays to shop around.
65. Raise the deductible on your homeowners insurance and car insurance policies.
66. Increase the waiting period to six months or longer on your long-term care insurance.
67. Review life insurance premiums. Can the dividends pay the premium instead of purchasing more coverage?
68. Buy term instead of whole life or universal life insurance.
69. If considering moving or retirement, look into places where the cost of living and/or state tax rates are cheaper.
70. Keep track of your cost basis on investments to save money on taxes when you sell an investment.
71. If you have a loss on your Roth IRA (the current balance is less than what you contributed), consider taking out the balance and claiming a deduction for the loss on Schedule A of your tax return.
72. Avoid paying penalties on retirement distributions by waiting until you're over age 59 1/2 to make withdrawals. Start required minimum distributions from traditional IRAs when you're age 70 1/2.
73. Do a 1035 annuity exchange to a company with lower expenses.
74. Put investments that generate ordinary income in tax-deferred accounts.
75. Use tax-exempt bonds in taxable accounts.
76. Put investments that generate capital gains or dividends (both generally taxed at lower rates than ordinary income) in taxable accounts.
77. Pay attention to the expense ratios on mutual funds you buy.
78. Consider using exchange-traded funds.
79. Pay attention to mutual fund brokerage fees.
80. Use prior-year capital-loss carryforwards to net out realized capital gains. You'll pay less tax.
81. If you have stock options, consider holding the shares after exercise for at least one year. You'll pay capital gains tax on the appreciation when you sell.
82. Cook in bulk and freeze.
83. Turn down your home thermostat a couple of degrees in the winter.
84. Only do full loads of laundry and fill the dishwasher before running it.
85. Get a roommate and share expenses.
86. Investigate phone service via the Internet.
87. Use regular gas instead of premium.
88. Cut back on eating out.
89. Be a smart grocery shopper--cut coupons, shop at discount stores, and stock up on sale items. Check out Costco or Sam's Club.
90. Buy energy-efficient appliances. They're cheaper in the long run.
91. Get rid of "add on" services with phone, TV, etc.
92. Keep up maintenance on cars. It may prevent costly future problems.
93. Get annual physicals to prevent costly future problems.
94. Wash your car at home and skip the car wash.
95. Pay bills online. Save postage.
96. Trade in your car with high insurance premiums for a car with lower insurance premiums.
97. Buy an I-PASS and save on highway tolls (in Illinois).
98. Sign up for a Upromise credit card. A percentage of your purchases will go into a college savings fund for your children.
99. Do your own home improvements. Home Depot and Lowe's employees can walk you through what you need to know.
100. Bring your lunch to work or scout out the inexpensive places to buy lunch. Look for inexpensive items on the menu, like soup.
101. Cut back trips to Starbucks or other premium coffee shops.

November 28, 2007

April 8, 2007

All the good things that come from MO besides me...Easter is Hallmark's fifth busiest card-sending holiday and the company estimates 80 million Easter

Easter info from MSNBC.


Easter is Hallmark's fifth busiest card-sending holiday and the company estimates 80 million Easter cards will be exchanged this year.
Hallmark offers 800 cards for Easter — some religious, some funny and some even have sound chips that play music. But the privately held company based in Kansas City, Mo., had to remove from shelves a card that was considered "biblically incorrect," according to spokeswoman Deirdre Parkes.
The "talking" card in question featured Charlton Heston on the front and dialogue from "The Ten Commandments."
It seems Hallmark would be better off sticking with bunnies and baby chicks.


Egg-dying is an Easter tradition that dates back to the 1800s. Paas, the famed egg-dye company based in St. Louis, Mo., has been around since 1880.

March 3, 2007

Waistlines keep expanding in 31 states

Mississippi and other poor areas weigh down the obesity list

“Populations are not equal in terms of experiencing these health problems,” Collins said. “Low-income populations tend to experience all the health problems we worry about at greater rates.”

The report says the health costs associated with obesity are in the billions of dollars annually. Citing a 2004 report, the advocacy group said $5.6 billion could be saved when it comes to treating heart disease if just one-tenth of Americans began a regular walking program.

Waistlines keep expanding around the globe

Urbanization, Western ways adding to the world's weight problem

"Obesity has become a problem of poverty," says Daniel Epstein of the WHO Regional Office of the Americas. “Poor people have an easier time of eating junk food. People fill up on things that have a high caloric value but little nutritional value.”

February 9, 2007

Immigration raid leaves Texas town a skeleton

City fueled by illegal meatpackers falls apart after hundreds arrested

By Sylvia Moreno
Updated: 2:49 a.m. ET Feb 9, 2007

interesting:

But authorities charge that these immigrants had false identity documents, enabling them to get driver's licenses and jobs illegally, victimizing U.S. citizens and fueling the fraudulent document industry. Traffic stops or crime reports became confusing events in Cactus in recent years. Immigrants would offer two names, said former Cactus Police Chief Tim Turley. They had "el verdadero," as they called it -- the true name -- and their work name.

January 15, 2007

Year of Vonnegut’ honors iconic author

Slaughterhouse-Five’ author being celebrated by Indianapolis hometown


This guy is one of my favorites.


Vonnegut, whose novels have mixed dark tragedy with humor and elements of social commentary, science fiction and autobiography, is regarded by many critics as a key influence in shaping 20th-century American literature. Many of his books remain on high school and college required reading lists, said Chris Cairo, director of project development at the Marion County Public Library in Indianapolis.

November 4, 2006

Where’s 104-year-old Waldo? Still working!

Spry Kansas senior raises bees and sells honey, just retired from running

I love this article!!!! :)

"I'm not a strong believer in retirement. I don't think retirement is in the Bible. Maybe it's there, but I haven't found it," he said.


"My running got so slow I could walk as fast as I could run," he said.


He attributes his longevity to many things _ genes, exercise, food, mental attitude and faith. Many in his family lived into their 80s and 90s.

McBurney believes in a healthy diet with lots of whole grains, fruits and vegetables, much of it grown in his garden.

"The kids in the city come home from school with nothing to do. They sit down in front of the TV with a bottle of pop and a sack of potato chips and they get fat, and fat is a killer," he said.
---> I think he figured out our childhood obesity problem

No drinking, no smoking
McBurney says he never smoked or drank alcohol, which he believes helped him live longer.

"I always got along fairly well without them, so I still don't know the taste of either of them," he said.

October 20, 2006

Just in case you didn't know, there aren't a lot of women in B-school...

So someone posts this on BusinessWeek boards:

The Yale School of Management has the highest percentage of female students of the top business schools in the U.S. and Europe, according to a recent census of leading M.B.A. programs.

With female enrollment at 38 percent for the class of 2008, SOM reported the highest female-to-male ratio of 27 prestigious institutions, according to a report released last week by the Forte Foundation. SOM was followed by the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, which has a female enrollment of 36 percent. The census showed an overall trend of an increasing number of women pursuing business degrees.

"Our mission of educating leaders for business and society cuts across gender lines in a fundamental way that is appealing to any prospective student who hopes to make a positive difference in the world," SOM Dean Joel Podolny said. …..





And then someone else posts this:

I would like to add that I am also very female friendly. I open doors for women, comment when they change hair style, try to refrain from staring at their chests, and I always say excuse me after I belch.

Looks like I have a lot in common with Yale.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 12, 2006

Cameroonians Fight Breast Ironing

(I cant believe this!!! )
Ms. Magazine - August 4, 2006
http://www.msmagazine.com/news/uswirestory.asp?id=9813

Cameroonians Fight Breast Ironing
Breast ironing, a brutal practice meant to slow the development of young women's breasts in order to ward off sexual attention, is inflicted on a quarter of all girls in Cameroon, according to a recent study by GTZ, a German NGO.
An additional 3.8 million girls, nearly one-fourth the population of Cameroon, are at risk of breast ironing. The practice involves wrapping heated bandages around a young girl’s chest, then “massaging” or pounding the breast with stones, wooden pestles or hammers that have been heated over coals.

According to BBC News, many mothers and female relatives support the practice — though practitioners can face a three year prison sentence — because, they say, undeveloped breasts mean increased educational opportunity and protection against “sexual immorality.” GTZ’s research shows that women victims face serious health risks, including cyst formation, cancer, serious infections, and damage to skin and breast tissue.

In an effort to fight breast ironing, the Network of Aunties Association (RENATA), a local NGO composed of teen mothers, has partnered with GTZ to launch a television and radio advertising campaign explaining the dangers of the ritual. It is a personal mission for some members of RENATA, such as the organization’s Executive Director, Bessem Ebanga, who told Agence France-Presse, "The aim of RENATA is to prevent young girls from being subjected to what we were."

October 1, 2006

A 3.41 minute clip about Carrboro..makes me want to live there

It is sort of funny that I went from Austin, Texas to Durham, NC and this town called, 'Carrboro,' is just like 10 minutes from my house and it looks like it is a Austin double.

Check out this funny clip on You Tube.

September 29, 2006

WorldPublicOpinion.org

Today PIPA, the organization I work for, has released a poll of Iraqis. The
poll was conducted earlier this month in Iraq and the results are what many
may have expected. Go to our website WorldPublicOpinion.org for the
article, questionnaire and full report.

Some choice findings.

71% of Iraqis want the US to gradually withdraw its troops within one year.
This number includes a strong majority of both Shias (74%) and Sunnis (91%).
Not to leave out any major ethnic/religious groups, an overwhelming 91% of
all Iraqis support the US leaving within two years, including a majority of
Kurds (79%). Only 9% of Iraqis want the US to stay until the security
situation stabilizes.

78% of Iraqis think the US is provoking more conflict than it is preventing.
Only 21% think the US is a stabilizing force. 77% of Iraqis think the US
plans to have permanent bases and 78% think the US would refuse to leave if
asked.

In addition, 79% of Iraqis think the US is a mostly negative influence in
Iraq. worse than their impressions of Iran (52% negative) and Syria (55%
negative). More Iraqis have a favorable view of Hezbollah (62% favorable).

Iraqis are also not confident that US military forces can protect their
security, with 84% having little or no confidence in US military forces.
Only 16% have a lot or some confidence. By contrast, Iraqis have more
confidence in the Iraqi police (71% some or a lot), Iraqi army (64%) and
Iraqi Interior Ministry forces (62%).

Because they do not perceive the US as willing to leave, 61% of Iraqis
support attacks against US troops, including a majority of both Sunnis (92%)
and Shias (62%). Only Kurds do not favor attacks against the US. This
finding is up dramatically from January when 47% of Iraqis favored attacks
against the US. The big difference? Though Sunni support for attacks is
unchanged, support for attacks among Shias has risen dramatically from 41%
in January to 62% in the most recent poll.

Hollywood tackles Mexican mystery

Hollywood tackles Mexican mystery
By Chris Summers
BBC News

Mexican police have charged a man in connection with a string of murders in a border town. The so-called maquiladora murders are the subject of two Hollywood films, one of which stars Jennifer Lopez and is due out in the US next month.

September 26, 2006

100 best employers for working mothers

More companies offer flex hours in order to retain female employees

This is good to know we have this force working for women.

September 15, 2006

Shanghai muddle over popular name

If you are trying to track down someone named Chen Jie in Shanghai, you may need a little extra help.

According to official statistics, it is the city's most popular name and is currently shared by 3,937 people.

But while the government wants parents to choose more unusual names, they are limited to those on a list of standard Chinese characters.

Over 1.5 million people in the capital, Beijing, have the surname Wang, the Shanghai Daily reported.

China has more than 700 family names, but the vast majority of people use one of the most popular 20 names.

September 10, 2006

Senate report: No Saddam, al-Qaida link

Long-awaited analysis also finds that anti-Saddam group misled U.S.

Note: I don't understand....in considering the totality of the circumstances, Saddam's connection to Al-Qaida and building up a nuclear weapons arsenal were the 2
main reasons we went to Iraq.


WASHINGTON - There’s no evidence Saddam Hussein had ties with al-Qaida, according to a Senate report issued Friday on prewar intelligence that Democrats say undercuts President Bush’s justification for invading Iraq.

Bush administration officials have insisted on a link between the Iraqi regime and terror leader Abu Musab al-Zarqawi. Intelligence agencies, however, concluded there was none.

Republicans countered that there was little new in the report and Democrats were trying to score election-year points with it.


The declassified document released Friday by the intelligence committee also explores the role that inaccurate information supplied by the anti-Saddam exile group the Iraqi National Congress had in the march to war.

It concludes that postwar findings do not support a 2002 intelligence community report that Iraq was reconstituting its nuclear program, possessed biological weapons or ever developed mobile facilities for producing biological warfare agents.

The 400-page report comes at a time when Bush is emphasizing the need to prevail in Iraq to win the war on terrorism while Democrats are seeking to make that policy an issue in the midterm elections.

It discloses for the first time an October 2005 CIA assessment that prior to the war Saddam’s government “did not have a relationship, harbor, or turn a blind eye toward Zarqawi and his associates.”

Bush and other administration officials have said that the presence of Zarqawi in Iraq before the war was evidence of a connection between Saddam’s government and al-Qaida. Zarqawi was killed by a U.S. airstrike in June this year.


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Senate chapter on Saddam, al-Qaida (PDF file)
Senate chapter on Iraq National Congress (PDF file)



Partisan reaction
White House press secretary Tony Snow said the report was “nothing new.”

“In 2002 and 2003, members of both parties got a good look at the intelligence we had and they came to the very same conclusions about what was going on,” Snow said. That was “one of the reasons you had overwhelming majorities in the United States Senate and the House for taking action against Saddam Hussein,” he said.
--> so you knew there was no al-Qaida connection and no nukes?!!@#$

Sen. Carl Levin, D-Mich., a member of the committee, said the long-awaited report was “a devastating indictment of the Bush-Cheney administration’s unrelenting, misleading and deceptive attempts” to link Saddam to al-Qaida.

The administration, said Sen. John D. Rockefeller, D-W.Va., top Democrat on the committee, “exploited the deep sense of insecurity among Americans in the immediate aftermath of the Sept. 11 attacks, leading a large majority of Americans to believe — contrary to the intelligence assessments at the time — that Iraq had a role in the 9/11 attacks.”

The chairman of the committee, Sen. Pat Roberts, R-Kan., said it has long been known that prewar assessments of Iraq “were a tragic intelligence failure.”

But he said the Democratic interpretations expressed in the report “are little more than a vehicle to advance election-year political charges.” He said Democrats “continue to use the committee to try and rewrite history, insisting that they were deliberately duped into supporting the overthrow of Saddam Hussein’s regime.”

Divisions slowed release
The intelligence committee issued a portion of its analysis, labeled Phase I, on prewar intelligence shortcomings in July 2004. But concluding work on Phase II of the study has been more problematic because of partisan divisions over how senior policymakers used intelligence in arguing for the need to drive Saddam from power.

Last November, Senate Minority Leader Harry Reid of Nevada forced the Senate into a rare closed-door session to discuss the delay in coming out with the new data.

The 400-page report covers only two of the five topics outlined under Phase II. Much of the information — on the intelligence supplied by the INC and Chalabi and the overestimation of Saddam’s weapons of mass destruction threat — has been documented in numerous studies.

The committee is still considering three other issues as part of its Phase II analysis, including statements of policymakers in the run-up to the war.

An Alternate 9/11 History

By staying 'humble,' as he promised in 2000, Bush preserved much of the post-9/11 good will abroad.

September 9, 2006

Spanish fashion show rejects too-skinny models

Women with very low body-mass index not allowed on runway

You go Spain!!! Hopefully the rest of the industry in the world will follow suit.

September 8, 2006

Women migrants 'suffer double discrimination'

By Maxine Frith, Social Affairs Correspondent
Published: 07 September 2006

Women migrants who travel to Britain and other developed countries are
put at risk of exploitation and abuse because governments "overlook and
ignore" them, the United Nations says, and there is a "dire need" for
stronger co-operation between rich and poor countries to ensure
migration around the world is better managed.

The UN Population Fund (UNFPA) revealed in a report that women now make
up half of the world's 191 million international migrants, compared
with less than 45 per cent in 1960.

They contribute billions to the economies of the countries they travel
to in terms of taxes and consumption, and are also more likely than
male migrants to send remittances to help their families in their
countries of origin.

But the report warned that governments in the West were not doing
enough to protect women from forced migration in the forms of sex
trafficking, enforced marriages and employment abuses. It also attacked
countries such as the UK for stripping Aids-ravaged countries such as
South Africa of key female workers such as nurses to plug their own
staffing gaps.

When female migrants arrive in Western countries, they often miss out
on health care because they are not aware of their rights and remain at
risk of exploitation from employers.

Thoraya Ahmed Obaid, executive director of the UNFPA, said: "There is a
dire need for greater action to address the lack of opportunities and
human rights violations that lead many women to migrate in the first
place.

"There is an urgent need for stronger co-operation between countries to
make migration more safe and fair. We call on governments to recognise
and value the contributions of migrant women and to promote and respect
their human rights."

She pointed to a new law in Sweden that prosecuted men who were caught
with sex workers rather than the women as an example of how the
problems of sex trafficking could be tackled.

Ms Obaid said that women often suffered double discrimination from
being both female and migrants. She added that rather than the
imposition of quotas, such as those being discussed for new EU entrants
such as Bulgaria, Britain should work with poorer countries to build up
their own education and health systems so that people were not forced
to travel abroad to escape grinding poverty.

But she also upheld the rights of people to travel abroad in search of
a better life. "Migration for economic well-being is a human right,"
she said. "These people contribute a lot to economies... Countries
should discuss together how to manage migration. If it is done well,
then it is a win-win situation for both the sending and the receiving
countries."

Her view contrasted sharply with that expressed by the new director
general of the Confederation of British Industry, Richard Lambert, who
warned earlier this week that the wave of cheap labour from eastern
Europe could put social cohesion at risk.

The UN report also revealed that claims about "floods" of migrants were
exaggerated. Since 1960, the proportion of migrants has remained
stable, accounting for 2.9 per cent of the global population. The US
takes the highest proportion of the world's international migrants, 20
per cent, compared with just 2 per cent in the UK. Refugees and
asylum-seekers represent just 3 per cent of all international migrants
in Europe.

Women migrants who travel to Britain and other developed countries are
put at risk of exploitation and abuse because governments "overlook and
ignore" them, the United Nations says, and there is a "dire need" for
stronger co-operation between rich and poor countries to ensure
migration around the world is better managed.

The UN Population Fund (UNFPA) revealed in a report that women now make
up half of the world's 191 million international migrants, compared
with less than 45 per cent in 1960.

They contribute billions to the economies of the countries they travel
to in terms of taxes and consumption, and are also more likely than
male migrants to send remittances to help their families in their
countries of origin.

But the report warned that governments in the West were not doing
enough to protect women from forced migration in the forms of sex
trafficking, enforced marriages and employment abuses. It also attacked
countries such as the UK for stripping Aids-ravaged countries such as
South Africa of key female workers such as nurses to plug their own
staffing gaps.

When female migrants arrive in Western countries, they often miss out
on health care because they are not aware of their rights and remain at
risk of exploitation from employers.

Thoraya Ahmed Obaid, executive director of the UNFPA, said: "There is a
dire need for greater action to address the lack of opportunities and
human rights violations that lead many women to migrate in the first
place.

"There is an urgent need for stronger co-operation between countries to
make migration more safe and fair. We call on governments to recognise
and value the contributions of migrant women and to promote and respect
their human rights."

She pointed to a new law in Sweden that prosecuted men who were caught
with sex workers rather than the women as an example of how the
problems of sex trafficking could be tackled.

Ms Obaid said that women often suffered double discrimination from
being both female and migrants. She added that rather than the
imposition of quotas, such as those being discussed for new EU entrants
such as Bulgaria, Britain should work with poorer countries to build up
their own education and health systems so that people were not forced
to travel abroad to escape grinding poverty.

But she also upheld the rights of people to travel abroad in search of
a better life. "Migration for economic well-being is a human right,"
she said. "These people contribute a lot to economies... Countries
should discuss together how to manage migration. If it is done well,
then it is a win-win situation for both the sending and the receiving
countries."

Her view contrasted sharply with that expressed by the new director
general of the Confederation of British Industry, Richard Lambert, who
warned earlier this week that the wave of cheap labour from eastern
Europe could put social cohesion at risk.

The UN report also revealed that claims about "floods" of migrants were
exaggerated. Since 1960, the proportion of migrants has remained
stable, accounting for 2.9 per cent of the global population. The US
takes the highest proportion of the world's international migrants, 20
per cent, compared with just 2 per cent in the UK. Refugees and
asylum-seekers represent just 3 per cent of all international migrants
in Europe.

Does sex really sell? Perhaps not to women

Researchers gauged responses to photos of attractive women

I always wondered why they put sexy photo advertisments in womens magazines...

September 1, 2006

Chinese police end funeral striptease acts

Chinese police end funeral striptease acts
Traditional titillating farewells used to attract crowds for the deceased

Quote of the Month

If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world
but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all. -- Anna
Quindlen
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July 26, 2006

Ambassadorial Scholar thankful for Rotary's ticket to the world

Click to go to the article with photo on Rotary's website.

From Rotary World, April 2006
By Abby Breitstein
Rotary International News

Ruby Powers laughingly calls herself a "Rotary lifer," even though she has yet to join a Rotary club.

"I got started with Interact in high school, and then I spent two summers doing RYLA," says Powers, who is from San Antonio, Texas, USA. In her senior year, she attended a presentation by returned Youth Exchange participants and was struck by one similarity. "Every single one of them said, 'It was the best year of my life.'" Soon, Powers was in her own predeparture orientation for her year in Verviers, Belgium.

After attending the University of Texas at Austin, where she became president of her Rotaract club, Powers was ready for her next Rotary adventure. In the summer of 2004, she left for Barcelona, Spain, as an Ambassadorial Scholar. She had no plans for a service project, but right after she arrived, one found her.

"I got an e-mail about a woman whose son had a rare metabolic disease that could only be successfully treated by a doctor in Barcelona," she says. The family needed a place to stay, and Powers knew just whom to ask: the Rotary Club of Barcelona Millennium, who hosted her. Soon, she was the contact person for families from around the world, each with a very sick child.

As she learned more about the disease and the Manuela Martinez Foundation, which supports work to treat it, Powers began talking to clubs and, last June, organized a fundraising dinner. She now says the foundation has become a personal project.

Back in the United States and in her first year of law school, Powers is grateful to Rotary for her Ambassadorial Scholarship. "[The message isn't] get a 4.0 and hole up in your room studying. It's go out there, build bridges, learn, and connect the world. I love that."

Learn about the Manuela Martinez Foundation at www.martinezfoundation.org.

This article originally appeared in the April 2006 issue of Rotary World.

My summer in two sentences...

It has been crazy - finished my first year of law school, a week with family in MO, drive/move to TX, start a 7-week internship in San Antonio, one week in Mexico, move to Dallas, and start my 4 -week internship here. Now, I have just 3 weeks before we return and I have so much to do to prep for my life back in NC.

I read an article in Prevention about Americans have so little non-stressful time bc we are always surrounded by cell phones, computer, telephones, internet, tv, blackberries, etc. I agree. I will find some good quotes from that article.

July 22, 2006

Just finished reading Barefoot Heart by Elva Hart Trevino

It is about a migrant Mexican American Texan family from the youngest daughter's point of view. It was good to read and compare notes on experiences in Mexico, Texas, and midwest as being a mix of Mexican and American.

It actually inspires me to write a book sooner than later......

I saw a guy I went to HS with at my grocery store in Dallas

We went to hs in the late 90's in San Antonio and saw each other after about 5 years since meeting up at UT, at the local downtown grocery store in Dallas.

I think I might just start making a list of occurences that help explain my blog's url.

re: Daniel Pearl's 'We are watching you....' posting on BBC

Daniel Pearl's post on BBC News

You are right; you have the right to read what is openly free to the public.

The last part mentioned about student interns writing about their experiences on the blog for their friends reminds me of a similar occurrence on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C. in 2004. A Senate staffer maintained a blog where she wrote about her sexual escapades using code names for her lovers for her friends to follow the story. Soon it was discovered by people other than her friends and decoded. After being fired, she later wrote a book.

Thanks for showing me technorati site.

July 4, 2006

Report: CIA unit that hunted bin Laden closed

N.Y Times says officials don't see al-Qaida as hierarchical as it once was

no comment.

Ode to Frequest Flier Miles...etc.

So I finally got around to reading this article about frequent flier miles and how to use them, etc.

I feel like there are a lot of people who dont know how to use them, get them, etc. and they are this scary topic of ' I know I could benefit from them but I dont know what to do.'

My grandmother has flown to more countries than I have and I just got her signed up for 2 airlines programs this last May. I feel bad I hadnt mentioned it to her before but I think I thought she already knew about it.

I got my first miles in 1999 when I flew to Belgium and back. Within a year and a half, I had a free flight from all my continental travels.

I also have received one free flight with United and one with Southwest. In total, I have racked up 3 free flights, each iwth a different airline. I should have a free one with United and SW soon.

My husband and I got the United Credit Card in 2004 probably and use it all the time. I just ordered the Southwest CC because I fly SW all the time and it looks like they have the best program out there.

Here are the links to some articles:
Mileage programs: Been great to know you

Airline Miles - Useless? Part Two

June 20, 2006

Smart, Skilled, Shut Out

Intel agencies are desperate for Arabic speakers. So why do they reject some of the best and brightest?

I know someone who this happened to...so it must be happening to a lot of skilled people.

May 27, 2006

Abuse plagues Muslim women in Germany

Immigrant women, especially those from Muslim countries, find themselves isolated and mistreated by husbands clinging to sexual and marital attitudes alien in the adopted country. MSNBC.com's Rachel Elbaum tells the stories of two these women and what is being done to help them.

When society gets in the way of sexuality

Culture clashes with human nature in the strangest of ways

Excerpts:
Koro, the anxious feeling that your penis is retracting back into your body, is often described as a “culture-bound” psychiatric disorder. Sometimes, episodes of koro come in waves, almost epidemics. Some victims believe that if the penis shrinks far enough into their bodies, they’ll die.

Dhat syndrome is another so-called culture-bound disorder. Victims of dhat syndrome come to believe that semen lost during sleep, through masturbation, or by having sex, is literally draining them of life force. They can feel lethargic or weak. Some have great sexual performance anxiety.

For example, Caucasian women were much more likely to masturbate than were African-American, Hispanic, Chinese or Japanese women. Almost half of Hispanic women engaged in oral sex once per week or more, but only 10.5 percent of Chinese women did. Just over 70 percent of African-American women had intercourse once per week or more; 41.5 percent of Japanese women did.

May 22, 2006

Iran pushes Islamic dress code for women

Fears rise that Tehran will restore mandatory head coverings, overcoats


'Now on Tehran’s busy streets, only some women adhere to the strict code of the chador. Others are seen in scarves that leave almost their entire heads bare, showing blonde-highlighted hair, and brightly colored formfitting jackets, called “manteaus,” that stop just under the waist, revealing jeans and sandaled feet with painted nails.'

Oh no, painted nails!! That reminds me, I need to get a pedicure.

1470 miles in 4 days - Durham to Dallas to San Antonio

I finally made it. Burak and I drove 1200 miles from Durham to Dallas then we unloaded our cars to set up our apartment in downtown Dallas. Then I drove to Austin, had dinner with a great friend, Ann, and then drove on down to SA. I start my law internship at Legal Aid in downtown SA tomorrow AM. 8AM!

This is going to be a great learning experience. What is like to live in SA after leaving it 7 years ago? Where do I want to end up, in Austin, Dallas, Round Rock, etc? What do I like about Texas? Can I live with this crazy heat? What is like to work in a law office? What will I actually be doing?

Anyway, I have a lot of questions but I hope to find a lot of answers these next 3 months.

Stay tuned...ok, now for a nap.
rubes